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Part 3: How to Change Bad Habits, by Substitution – EMOTIONAL ISSUES

In Part 1 (SELF-TALK), and in Part 2 (FOOD), we covered how to deal with these issues via the concept of substitution—substituting one thing for another in order to change bad emotional habits into good habits. In this last part of the series we will discuss emotional issues.

So how does one substitute emotional issues? Instead of trying to deny your feelings, or emotional state, or call a duck a platypus, or vice versa, you can deal with them honestly, and directly. Admit if you have a problem. Talk about it with a professional, trusted friend, or family member.

Next simply find alternatives—substitutions—to the BEHAVIORS that have been getting you into trouble, so you can develop new habits that will change bad emotional habits already wreaking havoc in your life.

Substitution to change bad emotional habits/issues and other problems too

Substitution is better than quitting something “cold turkey” because it joins us with SOMETHING rather than the feeling that we are left with NOTHING.

Many addictions, whether it is caffeine or smoking or overeating, can be solved by substitution. For instance, smokers often substitute food (or vaping in excess, because of the hand-to-mouth connection) when they try to quit smoking, and wind up gaining weight; but it does not have to be this way.

Substitution to change bad emotional habits into new ones can work by utilizing the opposition principle… just start focusing on doing the opposite if there is a need to develop new habits regarding things like:

– overeating
– laziness
– overeating
– anger
– hatred
– bigotry
– self-righteousness
– lust
– unhealthy sexual practices
– spending money
– sickness
– sorrow
– evil
– fear
– pride
– lack of exercise
– temper
– depression
– an unruly tongue

These emotional issues above are just to name a few. These supplant (crowd out) our true/highest selves. Real transformation to change bad emotional habits can occur through substitution. Start small, and let it grow over time. Just keep being conscious to add more substitutions into your life as time passes each day.

If selfishness is a problem, then change bad emotional habits in this area by consciously choosing something self-less to do instead.

Do it again, and again, until it becomes second nature. Then you will have developed a new habit.

For problem areas such as anxiety, teenager issues, or money problems, consider Richard Carlson’s three books:

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff–and it’s all small stuff (Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff Series)

Don’t Worry, Make Money: Spiritual &∓ Practical Ways to Create Abundance andMore Fun in Your Life

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff for Teens: Simple Ways to Keep Your Cool in Stressful Times (Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff Series)

Also there is a variety of resources on additional topics for self-transformation here at Hay House.

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The author of this story is a freelance contributor to National Nutraceuticals’ online news portals, such as Amino Acid Information Center at http://www.aminoacidinformation.com and http://www.medicinalmushroominfo.com, as well as http://www.todayswordofwisdom.com and http://www.vancouverhealthnews.ca (most of these articles are posted in multiple locations with permission).

2015 copyright Sharon Buydens

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Part 1: How to Change Bad Habits, by Substitution – SELF-TALK

Do you need to change bad habits? Create new ones? Our flaws and weaknesses can include a host of problems in our lives because we seem to fall back into old grooves that keep us running on the same tracks, over and over, and over again. In order to change bad habits into good ones, try using the concept of substitution!

First of all, we must watch our linguistics—the words we say to ourselves in self-talk. “I’m fat,” or “I hate that about myself,” or “I don’t like it,” or the infamous one, “I can’t,” are all self-defeating terms that can reinforce habitual behaviors. In order to change bad habits we must all recognize that we do it, and then catch ourselves when it happens, and begin saying things like, “I’m beautiful,” or “I am changing that about myself RIGHT NOW,” or “I can get over it,” or “I CAN try!”

Substituting negative phrases or words by inserting new, better and more positive terminology can boost our egos, give us a new confidence, and realign our old patterns into new ones. Remember to say it out loud whenever possible!

Say, “I am thinner and thinner!” or “I am healthier every day!”

Substituting good habits to change bad habits is like turning on the light!

Remember, that with substitution we are not just trying to force the darkness in our lives to leave just by willing it. We don’t walk into a room and tell the darkness to go… no! We simply turn on the light!  This is like simple physics.

Don’t try to “get rid of” or “quit doing” or “kill” or “die” or “change” anything. Shine the light within yourself by substituting something positive for what is/was negative – when the life or light is there the law will work.

It is a law of physics that we can turn on the light, but you cannot turn on the darkness! This law can be used symbolically as well… that light must fill the darkness, and not the other way around, give us power over the spiritual or emotional or physical darkness in our lives. This way we can count on a positive way to change bad habits and eliminate them from our lives for good.

Transformation to alter our bad habits into good ones is merely in the small steps that we take all day long… to reinforce the concepts, first, linguistically, and then take advantage of opportunities to follow through.

Changes in the food we eat or the diet plan we keep is no different than changing any other part of our lives.

Small steps…

TALK ABOUT substituting healthy fats for bad ones with other people

SAY OUT LOUD that you are drinking more water instead of eating second portions

EXCLAIM that you are enjoying the food you eat instead of feeling guilty!

See Part 2: How to Change Bad Habits, by Substitution – FOOD

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The author of this story is a freelance contributor to National Nutraceuticals’ online news portals, such as Amino Acid Information Center at http://www.aminoacidinformation.com and http://www.medicinalmushroominfo.com, as well as http://www.todayswordofwisdom.com and http://www.vancouverhealthnews.ca (most of these articles are posted in multiple locations with permission).

2015 copyright Sharon Buydens

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