In Part 1 (SELF-TALK), and in Part 2 (FOOD), we covered how to deal with these issues via the concept of substitution—substituting one thing for another in order to change bad emotional habits into good habits. In this last part of the series we will discuss emotional issues.
So how does one substitute emotional issues? Instead of trying to deny your feelings, or emotional state, or call a duck a platypus, or vice versa, you can deal with them honestly, and directly. Admit if you have a problem. Talk about it with a professional, trusted friend, or family member.
Next simply find alternatives—substitutions—to the BEHAVIORS that have been getting you into trouble, so you can develop new habits that will change bad emotional habits already wreaking havoc in your life.
Substitution to change bad emotional habits/issues and other problems too
Substitution is better than quitting something “cold turkey” because it joins us with SOMETHING rather than the feeling that we are left with NOTHING.
Many addictions, whether it is caffeine or smoking or overeating, can be solved by substitution. For instance, smokers often substitute food (or vaping in excess, because of the hand-to-mouth connection) when they try to quit smoking, and wind up gaining weight; but it does not have to be this way.
Substitution to change bad emotional habits into new ones can work by utilizing the opposition principle… just start focusing on doing the opposite if there is a need to develop new habits regarding things like:
– unhealthy sexual practices
– spending money
– lack of exercise
– an unruly tongue
These emotional issues above are just to name a few. These supplant (crowd out) our true/highest selves. Real transformation to change bad emotional habits can occur through substitution. Start small, and let it grow over time. Just keep being conscious to add more substitutions into your life as time passes each day.
If selfishness is a problem, then change bad emotional habits in this area by consciously choosing something self-less to do instead.
Do it again, and again, until it becomes second nature. Then you will have developed a new habit.
For problem areas such as anxiety, teenager issues, or money problems, consider Richard Carlson’s three books:
Also there is a variety of resources on additional topics for self-transformation here at Hay House.
The author of this story is a freelance contributor to National Nutraceuticals’ online news portals, such as Amino Acid Information Center at http://www.aminoacidinformation.com and http://www.medicinalmushroominfo.com, as well as http://www.todayswordofwisdom.com and http://www.vancouverhealthnews.ca (most of these articles are posted in multiple locations with permission).
2015 copyright Sharon Buydens